I am very worried because one of my girlfriends told me that she thought she was pregnant. Our relationship was over in a few days, and now I can’t get that out of my mind. I don’t know what to do. Should I look for her to confirm whether or not it is true or leave things the way they are?
Many men find themselves in your situation every day. The difference between them and you is that they want to avoid knowing that there are unborn babies that they are responsible for. We congratulate you for wanting to do the right thing, even though it will be difficult.
Yes, we believe that you must follow up with this girl and find out if she is pregnant. Your conscience won’t leave you alone until you know. Perhaps she is not pregnant and you can breathe a sigh of relief.
But what if she is going to have a baby? As you have realized, it is not just her responsibility; it is yours as well. First of all, we beg you to understand that every baby is a human being, even before it is born. Destroying a child in order to avoid the consequences of unmarried sexual relations is never a good option. Your conscience bothers you now; how would it bother you if you were responsible for murdering your own child? We encourage you to read cases 1 and 42 on our website to see how a man and a woman feel after having been responsible for aborting their own children.
Since you are no longer with this girlfriend, we assume that you do not love her. We do not advise that you marry her just because she is pregnant. Fifty years ago it was believed that a couple should marry for the sake of the child, even when there was no love involved. In today’s society, this almost never works out well. The mistake of an unplanned pregnancy is compounded by the mistake of a loveless marriage.
So if it turns out that your ex girlfriend is pregnant, we recommend that you consider placing the baby for adoption. So many childless couples long to have their own little babies to love and care for! Your situation could be the answer they’ve been waiting for. As the parents of three adopted children, we can tell you that almost all adopted children grow up healthy, happy, and deeply loved. Adoption is the loving option.
On the other hand, if your ex-girlfriend is not pregnant, you have been given another chance to decide when you are ready to become a father. In order to avoid this situation in the future, make the decision to wait until you are married to have sexual relations. Then you will never have to worry about finding a good solution for a situation in which there will be heartbreak and pain: You will never have to worry about having a woman you don’t love become the mother of your child, and you will never be faced with the financial ramifications of caring for a child before you are ready.
Do the right thing!
Linda and Charles