I am a thirty-two-year-old woman, and I have been in a very bad relationship for four years. I am a sex worker, and the man I live with allows it. He has taken my money many times. He manipulates me, insults me… and has hit me. I am so codependent that I have even gotten on my knees and begged him not to leave me…. Several times he has told me that he wants to kill me…. All that he cares about is the money that I make so I can buy him what he wants, and he doesn’t have a job. He is lazy and doesn’t do anything. I am afraid of him because of how aggressive he is when he is drinking…. He always asks me for money in exchange for staying with me. He takes advantage of my love for him. As a result, I am depressed, anxious, afraid, and desperate. I hope that you can help me.
Dear Friend,
You say that you hope we can help you. We hope that you will be willing to accept the help that we offer.
The only reason that anyone would allow themselves to stay in a situation like yours is fear. Fear is an emotion that has the power to cause you to ignore the truth. It is as if the fear has built a wall between you and reality.
It is likely that you are afraid because you believe a number of lies about yourself. You may believe that you are not good enough, or smart enough, or strong enough to make it on your own. You might even believe that you deserve the treatment that this man gives you, or that you deserve to be dead. But those are all lies!
What, then, is the truth? It is that you have made many mistakes, but you don’t deserve what this man is doing to you. He has no right to take your money, hit you, or take advantage of you.
Do you know that God loves you so much that He sent His only Son to pay the eternal penalty for all your sins? His Son, Jesus Christ, died on the cross so that you could be forgiven. And that means He is willing to forgive all sins, even the ones that you may think are unforgiveable.
You can talk to God right now. He is waiting for you to call on Him. He has His arms open wide and is calling your name. Respond to His call by asking Him to forgive all your sins and to accept you as His dearly loved child. When you do that, it will be as if you never sinned. All your sin will be forgiven, and you can start over.
The first step in your new life is to get away from this man. Ask God to give you wisdom as to where you can go and who you can turn to for immediate support. We are praying that God will guide you and let you know that He is always with you.
Please contact us and let us know that you are safe and that you have begun a new life.
We care about you,
Linda