Case 69
I am a thirty‑six‑year‑old single woman with no children.... I am extremely timid and insecure. It embarrasses me to speak to others and, when I do, I think they are going to laugh at me. I have tried to be more self‑confident and to not be distrusting of others, but I can’t. At times I lose hope. Dear Friend, We are so glad that you have told us your problem! Asking for help is the [...]
Case 68
I have a six‑year‑old niece who doesn’t like to stay at home with her parents and hates to sleep there. The girl’s father is my brother, who is three years older than I am, and the truth is that he harassed me sexually from the time that I was a very young child until just before I turned fifteen, which is why it worries me a lot to think that maybe that is also the [...]
Case 67
My wife has pancreatic cancer for the second time, and I am desperate.... There are moments when I get depressed from seeing her suffering, and at times I have said that God doesn’t love us and doesn’t listen to us anymore.... At times I feel that I can’t go on, but there is something inside of me that pushes me to keep going. Dear Friend, We are so sorry to hear about your wife’s suffering, [...]
Case 66
I am trying to decide whether or not I should marry my boyfriend. I love him with all my heart, but he’s so thrifty that it’s not in his nature to give me gifts. I always have to ask him for things, and only then do I get anything.... I’m tired of wondering if this is the way it will be my whole life with him and if he will give me financial help for [...]
Case 65
I served a year as the chairman of the board of an organization given to mismanagement and potential fraud. So I proposed management guidelines that were accepted, but with resistance. My fellow board members were afraid to support me when I strongly pushed for the steps that needed to be taken, even though the majority of them agreed with my proposals for improvement. As a result, I decided to resign. Now these fellow members have [...]
Case 64
I met my current partner on the Internet. She has given me reason to believe she is a good person, but I feel that she is not always completely honest with me and that she may have another private life on the web.... I can’t bring up the subject with her without getting into an argument. I love her, but I’m confused about her past. Dear Friend, You are wise to have questions. Meeting someone [...]
Case 63
I am a forty‑two‑year‑old nonmarital son. My father is still alive. I love him very much. He has always kept up with me and my mother, but he has never introduced me to his family.... I believe that I should respect his decision to keep my existence a secret.... He is now very old, so he hardly ever visits us anymore.... The last time he visited, I let him know I was worried about not [...]
Case 62
I like to be sincere. I know that lying is one of those sins that God doesn’t like, but every time someone asks my opinion, my answer is not what they expected. This happens a lot with my girlfriend.... It makes her start an argument and then start crying, claiming that I mistreat her and that I am crude.... My question is: When is it acceptable to lie so that other people won’t feel badly? [...]
Case 61
I am a thirty‑four‑year‑old man with a girlfriend. Things have not gone well for her. She was married to her first husband for only one year because he was unfaithful to her. Then she met another guy she fell in love with, but he was unfaithful to her as well. She has been very hurt by all this, and the problem is that she takes out on me the resentment she feels toward men in [...]